Pat Napapa’s life more than a nam nao lakorn (amazing person)
Who would have known that “Pat Napapa”, who has play in variety of roles from sympathetic to playful to tearjerker nang’ek would have a life that mirrors her lakorn? It is no difference from a nam nao lakorn at all. When it becomes reality it’s a shocking thing for this woman… this is part of her life that we don’t know.
“Pat Napapa” is a grateful daughter who takes care of her Alzheimer mother for more than 5 years now, at the same time watching over her disable sister. What’s more hardship for her to endure is taking care of the bills herself, 300, 000 baht a month. This time, her biological father is suing her and her mom for money and cutting ties with her by court. Since experiencing this hardship Pat has always cry and suffer heartache. Is this a slice of life movie or just meeting a misfortune?
“I have 5 sisters and I am the last of the 5. The eldest one is oversea, the second one has her own family, the third one follows her husband to work oversea and the fourth one is disable. The one that really takes care of mom is me. My other older sisters do help sometimes. However, I can say that I mostly take care of mom because they all have their own responsibility and family to take care of. The eldest has her own responsibilities. She comes once a year. The second one has a lot of responsibilities and has to travel a lot. The third one comes back once every 6-7 months. The fourth one is disable from birth. Mom said she convulsed so it made her that way. I always have to take care of her and now I have to take care of mom too. It is exhausting but I can endure this.”
“My mom started to get sick when I ask her about money. I ask if she put her money safely and she would go quiet and just answer “quite so (nan si)”. I started to wonder why she would answer that way on such important matter as money. Back then, I thought she’s probably tired. I started to know she really have Alzheimer when she will always forget her money, and would want to go out like a kid. One time she left the house and couldn’t find her way back home. We had to go out looking for her. That time my heart and mind was empty out of worry. Is she in dangerous? Not only that but she doesn’t remember what she has in her life. She doesn’t even remember me! The reason why she’s sick is probably due to stress about family matter . She thinks that she’s the reason why father left. So, we didn’t think it is anything because our mom always act so strong. But at the end it made her sick.”
“I didn’t think it was a big deal that my mom has Alzheimer. If she doesn’t remember anything, no big deal. We are close so I can take care of her. However, it gets harder when she fell and couldn’t walk. I have to shower and bathe her every morning before I leave for work. I always wake up early to take care everything for her. If at times I have to go out really early, it would be the work of my little sister and the servant. Some day she’s stubborn so we don’t have to bathe her. She can take a shower 2 times a week because she doesn’t sweat, doesn’t go anywhere. She can’t walk but her mood is still the same. She’s a happy person. So, I do what she wants. I don’t want to force her. If she wants to eat she eats, if not, then she doesn’t have to. Whenever she wants to eat, she just have to tell us.”
“We always hug each other. We always love each other. When my mom becomes sick, we got closer too. I don’t think my mom is a burden to me. It is my duty to take care of her. If I don’t, then who will? I didn’t start doing this only when she’s sick but I always love her. I love my family. It is not out of my way to do this stuff. However, these situation makes me become more responsible. I already come to term with my mom being this way.
Not just that but a new flame burns her again when her biological father sue her for money. The reason was because he won’t admit he has a second wife (mia noy), another family. “I honestly want us to live separately and cut all the problems but he won’t agree. That’s why he goes to court to sue my mom and me for money, that he has the right to some of our asset because he lives with my mom. He thinks that, even though there was no marriage certificate in the law, he’s lived with my mom he has some right!!! But it’s okay, if he wants to sue then go ahead. I will fight with all my might. I understand that he has no other choice but to do this. Right now, I am waiting for a hearing in a few months.” At the same times, she doesn’t really know what to do while fighting against her father, but the things that she knows is that if she thinks well and do well, everything will be well someday. The things that she does now is the best thing she could do as a daughter.
“When someone praises me, I feel happy but I think this is nothing since it is my duty. I’m not a skillful person or anything. I thank the heaven for having entertainment jobs or else I will be dead. Because I don’t know how harder it will be. I want to thank my mom for teaching me to be a good person, focus on school, and don’t be arrogant. So, the things that I have experience, it made me understand a lot of things. If I wasn’t in this shoe, I wouldn’t know.”
To this day, the last child of the family, “Pat Napapa” have to be the strong leader and responsible one for the family by taking care of her mom and everyone. She’s has a lot of responsibilities but she affirm that she will do the best she can… It is not only just duties, but she has to do this as a gratitude for the person who gave birth to her, and for the person who she loves with all her heart. Even though her mom can’t remember her name, she believes that the bond between them will never fade away. We really respect her strong heart. Keep fighting and we will be your other moral support, Pat.
Source: mthai | November 18, 2013